Gems, Jewels, Love and Life

#MeToo October 16 2017, 0 Comments

In the wake of the Harvey Weinstein scandal, women have come out and spoken up about their own experiences in solidarity. Social medias have been flooded with stories, and two little words. Two chilling little words... 

I am so saddened by this ocean of "me toos". Not surprised, but really saddened. And as I was seeing more and more of them appear on my FB feed early this morning, I told my husband "I guess I'm one of the lucky ones"...
And since I uttered those words, memories have been coming up, out of the dark, one after the other.

I'm realizing now that because none of those instances were extremely traumatic or leave huge scars (as they have for too many), I simply brushed them off, rationalized them, filed them in my brain as "boys being boys". And even worse, I felt I was perhaps partly to blame. Did I not feel flattered, wanted, seen, validated, even just a little?

Feeling (and being made to feel) like my body and my sexuality were the only things of value I possessed was part of my dysfunction, and of many other women's, I suspect.

Witnessing so many amazing women stand up and speak up for themselves is inspiring, empowering and gives me hope. I believe things are changing, and will continue to change.

We are strong, talented, wise, creative, intelligent, funny. We are powerful, and the world needs us. Let's not ever let anyone make us feel otherwise.

Thank you my sisters.


Be that person. December 16 2016, 1 Comment

Today I stumbled upon this video on Facebook and was deeply touched as well as incredibly inspired.

Loving and embracing my body has been a lifelong journey for me, from being too skinny as a child to having acne-prone skin during puberty. The curves of young adulthood, and now the midlife signs of "aging".

It's always so easy to see and appreciate the beauty in others, no matter the shape, size or age of their body, but somehow, it seems so challenging to give myself the same treatment. And it saddens me.

I've come a long way, but I find myself constantly working on this as there seems to always be new things to accept, embrace and love with this ever-changing physical body. 

This video, this woman, truly inspired me. So I had to share. While watching it I even had the thought "Perhaps I'll just allow my hair to go grey naturally..." (for the first time).

Perhaps someday I too will completely stop criticizing myself and simply celebrate every day I am given in this miraculous body. Changes and all.

One thing I know is that I will keep striving. #bethatperson

Thank you Rachel. Keep shining your bright light.

Changing the inner monologue September 26 2014, 0 Comments

This video truly touched my heart and I had to share.

As women we are conditioned from a very young age to dislike our bodies, and our relationship with the mirror quickly becomes a painful and challenging one. Not feeling enough. Not thin enough, not tall enough, not young enough, not pretty enough, not enough, not enough, not enough...  

But we suck it up, we get dressed, put on some make up and get on with our day. Things must get done...

We carry those feelings around and inadvertently infect the younger generations with the same "not-enough" plague, perpetuating the self loathing cycle.

How about we change this? One woman at a time. 

What those people did is so beautiful. You'll be glad you watched. 

Watch the powerful video: